In life, it’s easy to get caught up in a mindset where challenges feel like obstacles placed in our way. However, what if we shifted our perspective to see that what’s happening isn’t against us but rather for us? This slight adjustment in thinking can be transformative. By recognizing serendipity in our lives, we can start to see how unexpected events and even difficulties can serve our growth and open doors to new possibilities.
A powerful way to make this mindset shift is by adopting the framework from the book The Gap and the Gain by Dan Sullivan and Dr. Benjamin Hardy. This book explains that many of us are wired to measure our progress in terms of “The Gap”—the difference between where we are and where we want to be. This gap often leads to dissatisfaction because we focus on what we haven’t achieved rather than acknowledging how far we’ve come. Instead, by focusing on “The Gain”—the progress we’ve made and the growth we’ve experienced—we stay grounded and cultivate gratitude.
Seeing life through “The Gain” lens can completely alter how we interpret serendipitous moments and setbacks. It gives us permission to celebrate our wins and to realize that desiring more for ourselves is a healthy, natural part of growth. So often, we feel guilty for pushing beyond social expectations or wanting something greater, but if we measure ourselves by our own path, we can strive for more without comparing ourselves to others or feeling guilt about breaking social norms. Higher results are within reach when we allow ourselves to embrace the journey and see each experience as a piece of our own puzzle.
When you start recognizing that everything around you is happening for your benefit, even in unexpected ways, you open yourself up to growth and transformation. Use this understanding to your advantage: look for opportunities in every situation and see how they might be pushing you closer to your goals. This mindset shift can empower you through every stage of life, especially through significant transitions like midlife, perimenopause, and menopause.
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